RE-INVENT YOURSELF! A Lifestyle Transformation Guide for Women

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Hellllo readers, hope you’re well! I’ve got a really exciting guest post for you today from the fantastic, Cheryl Garrison talking all about her fantastic book. Without further delay let’s get into it! 

The Re-Invent Yourself book is a working guide for women over 50 who want to take their life from ordinary to extraordinary. Do you ever feel as if nothing is ever going to change for you, that this is it? Are you ready to change but don’t have a clue how to begin the process of making a change?

I wrote this book for you (and to be honest for me as well). One day I was a 20 Something, bold and confident career woman, wife, mother and entrepreneur and the next I was over 50 and struggling with my purpose in life. I had lost the passion. I had lost the hope. I had lost my vision. I was lost and I didn’t like that feeling. I had two choices. Keep dealing with this feeling of inadequacy and lack of desire or re-invent my life so that I could experience the success and vibrancy that comes with being passionate about living.

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I wrote this book for every woman who wants to regain the passion and experience real change. I believe that the first steps in re-inventing yourself is to actually know who you are and what you want. I had forgotten my own identity, at least I thought I had. Who was I? I knew I was a wife of 30+ years, a mother of three adult children, and a grandmother of one incredible granddaughter. But was that enough. Unfortunately, not really. At one point in my life, I had aspirations to be tremendously successful in my own business. In fact, I had many years of successful entrepreneurship.

But in my early 50s I experienced a very painful business failure that left me in debt and jeopardized my family’s financial stability. This probably would not have been that big a deal if I had been younger and wasn’t heading toward those retirement years. But here I was, a husband approaching retirement age, having to liquidate years of savings and security to pay off the debt. All I can say is, on the other side of this experience was a 50Something-year-old woman who was almost too afraid to get out of bed let alone try something new again.

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What I discovered was I wasn’t alone in this journey. I met many women who were experiencing some sort of life experience in their 50s and beyond and found themselves in the same place – afraid, depressed, and devoid of the passion that had carried them into their mid-life. Whether divorced, laid off, down-sized, empty nested, or obsolete in their career, the result was the same. Now what?

An off the cuff comment from my son led me to create the 50Something Lifestyle network and ultimately writing this book, Re-Invent Yourself! I began researching different techniques I could use to get out of the “funk” I was in. I started listening to motivational videos, reading and writing affirmations, studying techniques on how to rediscover my true identity and finally how to put together the steps needed to rewrite my story.

This book is a working guide for women who also want to rewrite their stories and begin dreaming again. After realizing that identity was the first thing lacking in women in this age category, I researched authorities in helping people find their true self and included exercises that will help women come away with the knowledge of who they are the personality traits they have that will support them as they create a re-invention plan for their life. After completing the exercises, I was able to resolve the conflict I had developed about who I was. I am now acutely aware of who Cheryl is and what Cheryl has to offer to the community at large.

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The second obstacle that plagued me on this journey was What Do I Want? I had plenty of past experience both in my career and in my entrepreneurial endeavors to do almost anything I wanted. But for the first time in my life, I had no clue what to do. In talking to several women who took this journey with me, we came up with the phrase that we were stuck in “cement blocks”. I even wrote a blog about how it feels to be stuck and not know what you want to do or how to go about getting it done.

As I pondered this, I knew that the only way to renew the passion was to find something I wanted to do that excited me. I discovered the concept of “Life Possibilities” which is an exercise where you list all the areas in your life that you have a possibility to change (career, family, leisure, education, etc.) and then identify all the things that you would like to accomplish in those areas (time and money now being a factor). If taken seriously, this exercise can help women create the beginnings of what will eventually be their goals/lifestyle plan.

The book also helps women resolve the obstacles and beliefs that keep us from succeeding and gives full details on how to create goals. The exercises and worksheets included in the book will result in a re-invention plan that if followed can change the life of every woman who gets the book. By integrating personal experiences and exercises I wanted to give women over 50 the tools they need to create the life of passion and purpose that they are seeking.

If you are ready to reinvent yourself and begin designing your lifestyle plan you can get your digital download copy here http://www.50somethinglifestyle.com/books or follow  Cheryl Garrison here! 

 

 

Guest post from Adrian Harvey, courtesy of Urbane Publications

Afternoon readers, hope you are having a lovely day. Today a little guest post from the rather lovely Adrian Harvey; I reviewed his book back in June which you can read here. I truly enjoyed this book, however, this is a little explanation of the thoughts behind the book and a lovely read for a slow Thursday in the office.

 Things are seldom as they seem….

Inspiration comes from many places and in all shapes and sizes. In my case, it came from India, in the hefty form of an elephant. That elephant was long dead, and I never had the chance to meet him. It also turned out that he wasn’t even real. But his story was the starting point of my novel, Being Someone. Quite literally, in the sense that a version of it became the first chapter, but the elephant was also the inspiration for everything that followed. The elephant, who I called Iravatha, was both the starting point and the frame for the novel, and he keeps poking his very long nose into the story.

In the book, the story of Iravatha is told to the narrator in a little park in the middle of Mysore and, to all intents and purposes, it is the same story that was told to me a little park in the middle of Mysore, some seven years ago. Essentially, it is an Indian version of the story of Greyfriar’s Bobby. If you don’t know the story, it’s the ‘true’ story of a little dog – Bobby no less – who keeps returning to the grave of his dead master in an Edinburgh church yard. There’s a Disney movie, made in the sixties, about the tale. It’s very touching.

When I got back to London I checked and there was no Iravatha. The boy I had met in Mysore had been telling stories, conflating bits and pieces of truth to create an impression, an effect. And it worked; I liked it. But what attracted me most to it was the ambiguity in its apparent simplicity and honesty.

You see, there is an account of Greyfriar’s Bobby that suggests that, rather than a heart warming account of loyalty and enduring love, it was simply a wheeze dreamed up to attract tourists to Edinburgh and in fact – a little like Lassie – a number of different dogs played the role over the years. Other versions suggest that ‘Bobby’ was just one of a number of stray dogs that hung around the cemeteries of the city, waiting for the highly emotional human visitors, who would feed them.

Now, the relationship between a mahout and his elephant is deep, often lifelong. But it is also complex and problematic. Mahouts are seldom entirely kind to the animals they train and tend and, as we know, elephants have very long memories within which to hold their grudges. I started to play with the layers of truth that might be bound up with my elephant story and, for some reason, this ambiguity made me think about a marriage.

So Being Someone became a love story: a man – let’s call him James – and a woman – let’s call her Lainey – fall in love; they get married, and then things happen, as things so often insist on doing.

But I also wanted to write a story about how hard it is to know each other, much less ourselves; a story about the elusiveness of the self. The result, I hope – and with only a little embarrassment – is an existential love story. With an elephant.

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